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Should homosexual couples be able to adopt kids?

Some conservatives believe that homosexual couples are unfit to raise children. This position is frequently based on religious grounds, where homosexuality is considered a sin. They add that the homosexual lifestyle and mindset will rub off on the kids, eroding family values. The libertarian stance is that scientific evidence does not support the accusations of bad parenting, that the alternative for many children is living in orphanages, and that religious views should not permeate law.

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Should gay and straight couples have the same legal benefits?
Should homosexual couples be able to adopt kids?

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Experts In Politics


Barack Obama    United States President
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...equality in relationship, family, and adoption rights is not some abstract principle; it’s about whether millions of LGBT Americans can finally live lives marked by dignity and freedom. That’s why we have to repeal laws like the Defense of Marriage Act. That’s why we have to eliminate discrimination against LGBT families. And that’s why we have to extend equal treatment in our family and adoption laws. I’ll be a president that stands up for American families – all of them.
01 Aug 2008    Source


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American Civil Liberties Union    (ACLU) Lobbyist
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One does not have to look too closely to realize that this legislation [to ban gay people from adopting] is about politics, not protecting children. Prohibiting lesbians and gay men who wish to become parents from doing so goes against decades of science and child welfare practice. Moreover, it does nothing to alleviate our current child welfare crisis. We need more permanent families for our foster children, not fewer.
13 Nov 2006    Source


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Experts In Homosexuality


A. Dean Byrd    Clinical Professor
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Studies demonstrate that there is, in fact, a difference between non-heterosexual and heterosexual parenting. Children raised by non-heterosexual parents are placed at risk. They are more apt to experience gender and sexual confusion; they are more apt to become promiscuous; they are at greater risk of losing a parent to AIDS, substance abuse or suicide. They suffer more depression and other emotional difficulties. They are also more likely to engage in same-sex behavior. ...
03 Sep 2008    Source


Experts In Christianity


The Catholic Church    Largest Christian Church
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We reaffirm the rights and dignity of all children. They should never be neglected and abandoned on the streets. They should be protected, especially when threatened by exploitation through prostitution, pornography, child-labor, drug trafficking, homosexual adoption and immoral "sex education".
24 Jan 2003    Source



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0 Points      Anonymous      15 Jan 2014      Stance on Question: Disagree
No way!!! They should not be able to adopt children, most gay men have been molested as a child , and the person who molested them the same and it's a chain , so no way! It's not in your genes , it's a sin , and disgusting, keep it outa the chilfldrens minds and off television


0 Points      Anonymous      11 Nov 2014      Stance on Question: Disagree
ur a f**** nonsense person with no brain inside ur head or whats ur problm. they r people aswell thy have the same rights as all the other people so shut ur mouth and welcome to the present land where all people have the right to adopt children. if u want a car but the person who is selling it dont want u to have that car what would u say huh? just stay a minute and think in their position



0 Points      Nashhinton      20 Apr 2013      Stance on Question: Agree
Yes, they should.


0 Points      dominic      29 Mar 2013      Stance on Question: Neutral
Dean Byrd tells us studies and research demonstrate blah blah blah without giving us any details of these studies or by whom they were supposedly conducted.

Typical ridiculous unsubstantiated nonsense.


0 Points      Alma      04 Apr 2012      Stance on Question: Neutral
I read every comment here and I see ignorance in both homo and heterosexual.i won't say who is right and who wrong but I will say I feel sorry for kids all over the world.it doesn't metter who and with whom they are raised no one ever ask them what do they want they just have to live the way we idiotic grownups tell them so.look from beginning of this hell called Earth till the end it was and it will always be discrimination,hate,racism,double stands and so on...Live the way you wanna live not how somebody wants you to.as a kid I had to and I listen enough now I am adolt leave me alone I am able to bring my own decisions.if you don't like it then find something you do.GET LIFE HYPOCRIT!!!!


0 Points      Tori      06 Mar 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
For all the people that think homosexuals will make unfit parents, you are absolutely wrong. I find more homosexuals to be considerate because they have had to go through more social and personal issues during their lifetime than an average heterosexual. Heterosexuals are more likely to contract AIDS so you won't have to worry about most homosexual parents to die from that. The children of the homosexuals will be less judgmental as they grow older and more accepting of different people in the world, probably resulting in a large group of friends. Homosexual parents learn not to discriminate and there still are "pants" in the relationship so that helps with the "missing gender role" for all of you straight ignorant people. Homosexuals can raise children just as well if not better than heterosexuals.


1 Point      French      28 Feb 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
Honestly, I don't see a problem with having a child come from a same-sex household. Why don't we educate our children on same-sex couples. The response to A. Dean Byrd, (#1 pardon my french, but how the hell do you become an expert in homosexuality?) where are you getting this information circa 1984? People say that by children living under the custody of a homosexual couple that they will turn gay. If you believe that living around a homosexual couple will 'turn' you gay, then you must believe you can catch AIDS from a hug. The truth is, a child will go through a sexuality crisis if the home s/he lives in doesn't discuss such things as homosexuality or heterosexuality. A sexuality crisis only occurs when a child grows up being forced to believe something that they truly are is wrong and that the crisis is within themselves is of pleasing those around them because those around them have made it so that they feel distressed due to the nature of their household. As for the bullying, yes some children from a homosexual household will be bullied, but so the same for those who come from households of heterosexual couples. What we need to teach our children is tolerance. That every family is a family whether the child has one parent or multiple or if both are male and/or female. For a final thought homosexual couples would teach their children tolerance, (not to say all but a majority)into accepting others. Since when did homosexuality become the new black, if to say so myself, the times for homosexuals (socially, that is) is not to far from where African Americans were less than a lifetime ago.


0 Points      Anonymous      16 Feb 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
look im a highschooler in school doing a report on this not only is it wrong but the child alone is imidiatly a target for bullying for having 2 of the same sex parents... srry but homosexuals are wrong!!!


0 Points      Proud Homosexual Parent      22 Mar 2012      Stance on Question: Mostly Disagree
Im also a high school student doing a report on this, but as it stands im homosexual too. To say that we put children in danger for bullying is false. To be honest as homosexuals stand we have the same rights as heterosexual couples to raise a child. I have a son and guess what he has two mothers, his father is not in his life so iv been raising him along side his mother since he was 6months old.He is one now, i have to voice my opinion and stand up for this. Its not biased, but to say that we are wrong for wanting to raise a child, is ignorant. It simply annoys me when we have people who talk us down because of our sexuality. Children have their own mind they think,feel, and say what they want. I was raised by a heterosexual family and i am a lesbian so what does that say? Just because your parents are gay does not mean you will be. But when your parents are straight, you have about a 50/50 chance of becoming gay as well.


1 Point      Martin      21 Feb 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
I am in a same sex relationship in the UK. We adopted a boy nearly 6yrs ago (he was 7 at the time). We have now q second boy aged 7yrs. He's been with us now for just over a year. Both children are now thriving and doing very well. The eldest has a girlfriend ( yes at 12) and living with a gay couple has in no way been detrimental to them.... in fact the opposit. All the negative comments on here seem to stem around that you believe that a child will turn out gay it they live with a gay couple LOL! If that's true then there would be NO GAYS AT ALL as all kids raised by straight couples should be straight.
I think that the negative authors on here really have no idea what they are talking about and should do a bit more research before making themselves sound even more dumb. Hi from the UK by the way x


0 Points      Kimberly      22 Feb 2012      Stance on Question: General Comment
i second that i am in college doing a report and by all the research i think that it is good to have peopleof the same sex to adopt. It would help lower the rate of kids in foster care and help high adoption rates. there has been many studies that show that sexual orientation of the parent has no impact on the sexual orientation of their children of lesbian and gay parents are no more likely than any other child to grow up gay.



1 Point      Finished Highschool      16 Feb 2012      General Comment
It used to be that you got bullied if your parents had different skin colors. By your reasoning, heteroskinality is wrong.



0 Points      Lesbian Raised      02 Feb 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
I'm just gonna start by saying that I was raised by a lesbian couple, and you know what? I am a perfectly normal, functioning, STRAIGHT 18-year-old girl. I am not gay. The fact that I have two mothers and no father has had no effect on the way I feel toward men. I merely understand and respect my parents' lifestyle. This entire debate makes me sick to my very core. My biological mother was an overly eager, irresponsible 17-year-old who was not ready to raise a child, so I was abandoned and adopted by my two mothers, both of whom were more than ready to take on the burden of parenthood. I am happy with my life. I always have been. I have a home and a family that loves me, which is more than I can say for hundreds of teens throughout America.

Who cares what gender they are? I certainly don't, and neither do many of my friends. In fact, I have had friends that came to my house, only to tell me that my parents seem perfectly "normal" because they are. I love my mothers and I don't know what I would do without them. They are like any other parents. Actually, no, I shouldn't say that; they're BETTER than the average parents. They support me, help me when I need it, reward me, clothe and feed me, and, yes, they discipline me when needed. It makes me sick when people tell me that according to the Bible, our family has no right to exist. So, what, your merciful God would prefer that I am alone right now, growing up in the foster care system instead of with a family? Or maybe it would have been better if my biological mother would have aborted me like she originally intended? I've been told both by intolerant classmates.



My only misery about my parents in my life comes from my conservative Christian classmates, who feel it is their duty to inform me that if I don't relinquish my LOVE FOR MY PARENTS, I too will "burn in hell." My parents are my family... I love them like any child should love their mother. And, just for the record, they are legally married by California law... So I'm not a bastard child either. I never desired in my entire life to have a father as most people like to assume. I’ve always been content with my mothers. I’ve put with so much criticism from my classmates about my parents, to which they have no grounds to base their claims. My parent didn’t adopt me for a publicity stunt or to make a statement; they adopted me because they are two loving, caring, compassionate, and responsible adults who love each other and wanted to raise a child.

Let me take a moment to delve deeper into this idea of classmates. I know one girl, a very conservative Christian, who insists on going out of her way on a day-to-day basis to remind me that my family is agents of Satan and that loving the very people who raised me are going to lead to my eventual damnation. She had told me that my biological mother aborting me would have been a better fate than to be raised by “faggots.” I promptly hit her in the face when she referred to my family with such a term, but, even if I wasn’t tolerant of homosexuals, I would never blatantly say that to another person. It’s uncalled for, but, unfortunately, what I deal with everyday. She even went so far as to follow me home one day, where my mom threatened to call the police… THIS is where my misery lies, not in my parents themselves, but in the treatment I receive from the people surrounding me.

You people raised by straight couples that have the nerve to imply that gay families don't have a right to exist make me sick. You have no idea how tight our families are; we’re no different than a straight family. Your narrow-minded beliefs are hurtful. Very hurtful. I will never hide the fact that my parents are lesbians. I am proud to call myself their daughter, regardless of what all you religious activists think.


0 Points      Jeremy      15 Mar 2012      General Comment
I'm doing a research paper on why gay couples should be able to adopt and I wish I saw this earlier. I would've loved to have emailed you or something to get an actual account of what it's like.


0 Points      maka      14 Mar 2012      General Comment
@ lesbian raised, i think that was wrong for someone to say thoz bad words about your parents. I am a christian myself and Christianity is not a religion. it's good you love your parents cause they were there for you but the truth is homosexual is a sin. there is pleasure in sin, no matter how nice you can be, if what you are doing is a sin you go to hell. pray for your parents so that they may repent. dnt be fooled by the devil.


0 Points      cchh      10 Oct 2012      General Comment
correct me if im mistaken but doesnt god love all his children? gays too? ignorance is what people like this have too much off.


0 Points      Lesbian Raised      16 Mar 2012      General Comment
@Maka
I'm not sure what you mean exactly when you say Christianity isn't a religion, because it is, and a very hypocritical one at that. I'm not hating on Christians because I do know many that I get along with fine, but I am an Atheist. I don't believe in damnation or sin. And, really, even if I did, I would NEVER ask my parents to repent their nonexistent sins. They love each other. If the devil is so evil, then why is he making two people love each other? Love is a good thing. There's nothing evil about it. In this situation, it could be argued the GOD is the one being evil by saying that if two people love each other for who they are, they're going to be damned for all eternity.

I don't really want to rant, but maybe if you get the chance check out www.evilbible.com. God breaks almost every single law he made in the Bible. Seriously. He kills entire cities of women and children for the crimes of one or two people more times than I can count. So THIS is pure and sacred because God did it, but my moms kissing each other is evil? Seriously? I think you should consider what exactly defines a sin.



0 Points      Shaine      22 Feb 2012      General Comment
A+ you deserve all the awards ever made!



0 Points      j      11 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Neutral
my opinion is that if a child wants to be adopted, so be it. being around homosexuals doesn't change a child being gay or not. many homosexuals are gay because thats how they feel. in most cases no outside opinion or influence is involved. and being gay isn't for those who are just stupid or wierd. Rob Halford of Judas Priest,a popular metal band from the seventies and eighties, is gay and ery intelligent. being a straight man myself, i have my morals that i stand by, but being the son of a homosexual would not change my opinion at all. if a child wants to get adopted, the government should'nt regulate wat sexuality a potential parent might have.


0 Points      Anonymous      07 Nov 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
Society is a behavior of institutes that are built up by our behaviors and we listen to those institutes to further drive our beliefs. Its a sick cycle people feed into. People who say that gays face ridicule and their children will too are only feeding the society the same sick bullshit. want those children who are born that way or raised in that environment to have a better chance in what we call America the land of bullshit freedom? then don't feed into. become more tolerable. You believe in the bible? I do too and all i see is messages of love. I don't see Jesus as a wrathful person but one who is trying to teach us all sin is equal. We all sin and no one is better than another. People who use the bible in the wrong way are just trying to be egotistical and are trying to play the role of god themselves. Let gays do what they want. If god is really against it let him deal with it. YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO CAN CONDEMN. get over it.


0 Points      Kallie      31 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
I don't see how come Gays and Lesbians can't adopt just because it is two of the same sex. Most people think that just because there gay they can't have kids well news flash its not your choice to make for them they made there own. All I have to say is Anyone should be able to have the same joy anyone else has. I am as straight as a line can get but should we make judgments on something that isn't ours to judge. What Gays and Lesbians do isn't any of our business and its there own desicion like I said before. I am a 9th grader so anyone who is older and think that it is wrong get it out of your mind its not your decision to decide for them.


0 Points      alt      08 Jun 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
Actually, because they're gay they CAN'T have kids. You need a both sexes to make a child. If you meant they deserve to have (adopt or otherwise) a kid, again you're wrong. If there weren't decades of reseach saying that children raised in homosexual "families" turn out with problems academically, psychologically, physically, socially and behaviorally then by all means yes gays can have kids. But that isn't the case.
Not to mention that culturally and historically gay relationships don't exist for the simple reason that humans would have died long ago if we ignored nature.
And gays can make their own choices. But what you are ignoring is the fact that the adults' rights to have children should never supersede the rights of the CHILDREN to a safe, healthy and stable heterosexual family. What gays do is their business, but not when it affects the persons that society needs to protect the most.




0 Points      Nate      24 Oct 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
non heterosexuals shouldnt be allowed to adopt children because all children deserve a choice to to whether or not to be homosexual


0 Points      Brooklin      20 Apr 2012      General Comment
they should also hae the chouce if hetersexual, but they dont, most homosexuals were raised by straight couples, if you think about it because a lot of places just begin to accept gay couples period, so i feel that what your stating here really doesnt make any since.


0 Points      Von      22 Mar 2012      General Comment
Even if your parents are homosexual, it doesn't mean you'll automatically become one.Gays and lesbians can provide the same healthy and functional learning environments straight people can.


0 Points      Tori      08 Mar 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
your not going to grow up homosexual if you are raised by homosexuals. it's in your genes.


0 Points      Devin      12 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
I feel that when a homosexual couple adopts a child the child has its own choice on whether or not they choose to be gay. The fact that the parents are gay dosen't mean that the child will be. They are plenty of heterosexual couples whom biologically have children and adopt whose children are of the homosexual lifestyle.


1 Point      Anonymous      26 Oct 2011      General Comment
If this is the case the same would apply to heterosexuals for the same reason. It's the child's choice.



1 Point      Ashley      02 Jun 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
How is this even debatable!? Is this really what we’ve come to? Denying two people the right to have a family when they love each other just because some people disagree with it? What right do other people have to tell somebody else that they can’t have CHILDREN? If two people are responsible and completely qualified to raise a child together, then there is no reason to not allow them to adopt. It is no different than having a child of the opposite gender ad having to raise them as a single parent. Please tell me where the difference is. Homosexuality is something a person is born with; something they can’t control. Denying someone the right to adopt based on sexual orientation is like telling a black family they can’t adopt a white child. If the parents are qualified, I say go for it! The real problem behind gays adopting children is the straight families. The children of gay couple’s real unhappiness lies in the way they are treated. If straight parents didn’t press onto their own kid’s minds that gays are so evil, the children would lead perfectly normal lives without bullying.
And as far as religion is concerned, If you need an example of how blindly following religion to make societal laws and regulations can really screw a place up, look at the Middle East. Their religion dictates everything in their lives. And we all know that their laws can be cruel and unfair. America prides itself on justice, but religion holds no ground on fairness. It is what some overpowering entity wants and we’re supposed to follow this in our day-to-day choices? Now, I’m not saying that religion is wrong. I myself am Christian, and I don’t really care what people say about my views on gay marriage making me a “fake” Christian. I know what I believe. I believe in Heaven and Hell and God and Jesus. Nobody can tell me that my faith in God is lowered just because I think two people have a right to live happily together. If God is as just as we say he is, he’ll want his creations to be happy and not his slaves. He’ll understand. All I’m saying is the government needs to accept that not everyone in America is religious and we don’t follow the same morals. Denying two people the right to be together based on religious is comparable to the intelligence of Islamic radicals in the Middle East... Gays have just as much rights as straigt people do.


-1 Point      PRIDE!      10 May 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
a number of my friends have gay parents or a gay family member, and they have grown up just fine. Their grades are up and they stay out of trouble. homosexuals are no different from straight people! the only difference is their sexuality. I'm in an AP world history class right now adn i know for a fact that men practiced homosexuality waaaaay before any of us existed, and they shouldn't be discriminated today.


0 Points      Anonymus      07 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
HELL NOO!!!

Dear Rainbows & Dolphins,

stay away from our kids!!


0 Points      php      22 Mar 2012      General Comment
Simply said,you are ignorant for this statement.i have a son, hes 1. im lesbian. and my son is developing as a normal toddler would.


0 Points      Anonymous      12 Oct 2011      Stance on Question: Mostly Disagree
That's rude everyone deserves to be happy. How would you feel if someone said that you couldn't adopt a child because your heterosexual you wouldn't like it right?


0 Points      badyellow20      16 Nov 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
well anonymous apparently you confuse about if homosexual should adopt kids or not young minded ass females like you but you know what im lookin at all the things you sayin but you confuse and now thats funny gurl you just need to stay in school or whatever you doing wit yo life.


0 Points      French      28 Feb 2012      General Comment
Apparently, you need to go back to school because you can't spell nor is your grammar anywhere near correct.




0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
Did you seriously just say that? - _ - Not only is that disrespectful and jumping to way too many conclusions...it's well...to put it bluntly...stupid and ignorant. - _ - sigh. You should instead be telling pedophiles, murderers, rapists, and the like to stay away from your kids.


1 Point      Equality For All      12 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
stay away from our kids? what does that mean really? open your shallow mind and realize that homosexuals are human too and just because they prefer the same sex does not make them any less civil or able. not too long ago interracial marriages were looked down upon and discrimminated against. how often do you see interracial couples now? every damn day. it's the SAME THING when it comes to homosexuals: discrimmination, intolerance, and ignorance. if they can fight the prejudices against them and eventually prevail - then so can we.


0 Points      Jessica Amanda Khan      08 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
wtf its not ur kids so i dont know wht the fuck ur talking about... people everybody has a right to adopt children if they have the finance and stable homes so fuck off homofobic hobbit


0 Points      alt      08 Jun 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
Are you saying a person can't fight for a cause just because he isn't related to them? Especially in the case of children, we as adults have the right and responsibility to fight for those who cannot.
Oh and leave your insults aside. Implying that only evil people can disagree with you only makes you look more immature.
And of course, this is an ad hominem argument. But nice attempt.




1 Point      Rain[ing]bows      14 Feb 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
Here’s the thing I am 17 years old I’m African American and I’m Bisexual. I’m sure everyone knows that African Americans can be very tough on someone black who is gay lesbian bisexual or anything different. Trust me I know. Why do you think so many black guys are on the "Down Low"? My point is that i grew up with a black mom and a black step dad who constantly told me that living homosexual will be the biggest disappointment for them so I was always scared because I knew I had these feelings but would never let them out because I knew what my parents did not want from me. My uncles where all homophobic so I was scared to even talk to them! I knew they would have drilled me because I acted a little more feminine then the usual family member. When I say "then the usual family member" I even mean the women, who acted just as big and bad as the men in my family. In other words I grew up around "tough shit" homophobic but I still decided to leave the closet at 15! I was kicked out and lived with my gay uncle and his partner. I never once heard him, his partner, or any of the thousands of friends they had ever tell a child that growing up heterosexual was the wrong thing. They never looked at someone straight and turned them down or talked down about them. I’m not saying that homosexuals are just perfect people but no one’s perfect, and it’s sad to see that people base sexuality on whose worse than the other. I know I’m young but I'm learning new things everyday so a lot of things really bother me if it seems wrong to me. Not everyone should raise children but never should it be based on men loving men or women loving women.


0 Points      D      21 Mar 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
but don't you think that if it was meant for people to be homosexual or same sex couples to NATURALLY have children together God or whatever higher power you believe would have made it possible, how do two men teach their daughter how to us the restroom, clean herself while shes on her period, choose a bra size or even do her hair, or vice versa with a two women and their son. all im saying is i don't believe that same sex couples should be raising a child, but i also dont think that just because your homosexual you should be beaten and made fun of i believe that as a christian man i should still have a Godly love for you but pray that one day you will see the wrong in homosexuality and change.


0 Points      Deborah      16 Nov 2014      Stance on Question: Disagree
My now 19 year old daughter was adopted by a gay couple. She was 2 when she was taken from me. She is back with me. My daughter has A LOT of problems with hygiene, doing her hair, cleaning anything, and how to talk to grown ups. But it blew my mind because she informed me she doesn't believe in God. Just because the church had problems with the men being gay. It is so very hard to now teach her how to be a lady. No I strongly believe gay men should NOT adopt little girls. So screwed up.


0 Points      Hypocrites!      12 Apr 2012      Stance on Question: General Comment
@D WHAT are you talking about????? Asking how to gay men would teach a daughter to use the bathroom or to perform feminine hygeine is just like asking how a single dad would handle the same situation and to ask how they would teach her to choose a bra size or do her hair! Why not try to be a little unassuming here.... How do you get to be the judge on whether a certain gay person has the knowledge of caring for a child of the opposite sex, let alone lumping ALL gay people together and calling all gay people ignorant? You sound pretty ignorant to me yourself. Plus as a christian myself....I believe that as christians it is not our job to cram our religion down other people's throats. And to use the arguement that God said to spread the Word....is kinda weightless when you think about it. Gay people are put down and stepped on and mistreated for making their own choices, that they have every right to do, and we want to call ourselves christians by being hypocrites!!! What's wrong with you?! THere is no need to 'spread the word' (unquote) DOn't you think that with all the torture that homosexuals get all the time is enough that 'the Word' has been spread? How bout accepting people for who they are? How bout not judging people for what YOU THINK they should or should't be doing? How bout taking the LOG out of your own eye. You judging them for what YOU THINK is the right or wrong was to live is a SIN. You treating them as inferior is a SIN. DOn't you think there are more important things that are happening in this country than the sexual orientation of someone else (Who by the way usually has nothing to do wiht the person judging them)? If you think what they are doing is so wrong than why don't you stop being such a hypocrite and look at yourself and stop committing the everyday sins that you do? We ALL sin EVERYDAY and God of the christian faith says that one sin is just as bad as another and that the ONLY exception is blaspheming the Holy Spirit.....so who are you to stand by and try to say that one thing (that you just so happen not to do) is some horrible sin that someone will burn in hell for. I'm sorry but the Bible that I read and the God that I worship says that your Salvation is not by works but by faith. SO before all you 'christians' want to go preaching to gays, or anyone for that matter, take the log out of your eye first, live a completly sinless life, then feel free to judge. Oooo wait..........that's right........it's impossible!!!!!!!!!!!
Stop being such ignorant hypocrites!!!!!


0 Points      Anonymous      07 Nov 2011      General Comment
Than couldnt you say the same to a single parent who is trying to raise the opposite sex child? Who is going to be there to teach their child how to do those thing. Your comment is ignorant and not thought out.


0 Points      Ayanna      27 Oct 2011      General Comment
Just letting you all know, my brother and I were raised by our moms, yes they were lesbians, and no we didn't have an awful life growing up, they didn't try to force us, or even try to convince us to be homosexual, or heterosexual. It just wasn't an issue, and there is no reason for it to be one. There wasn't anything unnatural about it, they are my parents, I love them, they love me, each other, and my brother. We are a family, and a lot more stable than some heterosexual families I know. Whether or not children are raised by heterosexual or homosexual parents has nothing to do with the stability of the family. There are stable homosexual family as well as unstable, just as there are in heterosexual families. It has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the parents, but who they are as people and how they raise their children. My parents loved each other enough that they wanted a family. There was nothing selfish about it. As far as I'm concerned, I had a great life growing up. I had so much love from my moms and the rest of my family it didn't feel like I was missing anything at all. Cause I wasn't. My brother is 20 now, strait (not that it matters) and my parents never tried to convince him of anything different. Surprising that two women were actually able to raise a boy???? Not sure what they did about the whole penis thing hey. They must have just not known what the hell that thing was.
My parents are who they are, and I love them all the more for being strong enough to be will to be who they are.


0 Points      JESSICA      29 Jun 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
I dont agree with this at ALL! LOOK at some couples( a man and a women) some times CAN NOT have children, it's " naturally" suppost to happen right? man +woman= baby right??? well sometimes this cant happen. so why has God or other higher power deny them from having children? And you can not just say that a gay or lesbian is going to "change" why in the world would a person go through so much BULLSHIT just to have a sexual prefrence? it would be much esier on them to say, " hey I going to be "straight" then there would not people giving them shit. I am Catholic myself and I beleve that GOD has no mistake and this is what he wanted to do. who are we to judge? Judgment day will come and non of use will have a say so on it, only the big man up stairs.


0 Points      Anonymous      07 Nov 2011      General Comment
i'm christian and god teaches you all sin is equal and only he can judge with the power to condemn. love thy neighbor your narrow minded person. and look into your bible more to become more loving because clearly you need to



0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
Some women can't conceive. What would you say to them? It doesn't mean that she shouldn't have a child, just because she is unable. Why not the same for a man who wants a child with his male significant other? They could very well be amazing parents.

Anyway, you'd be surprised what some men and women are capable of teaching. =] On the do her hair note, my sister's fiance (male) is very good at doing girls' hair and nails and such. He grew up taking care of his sisters. See? It's possible. Also, they could use common sense or even ask for help from a close friend or family member. Even heterosexual women need help when starting out to be a mom.

There is no wrong in homosexuality, and even if they agreed with you and wanted to change. They couldn't. It's what they're born with. They have their genes and hormones doing all of that to them. It isn't a choice.


0 Points      Jessica      29 Jun 2011      General Comment
Fae, I could have not said it better! I have an aunt that never had her Period( complications I guess) IDK anyway she ened up adopting a baby girl and when she grew up and had her period she had to ask for help on feminine products,and how they worked, b/c just reading the box was not going to cute it for her.



1 Point      Edee      09 Apr 2011      General Comment
"but don't you think that if it was meant for people to be homosexual or same sex couples to NATURALLY have children together God or whatever higher power you believe would have made it possible, how do two men teach their daughter how to us the restroom, clean herself while shes on her period, choose a bra size or even do her hair, or vice versa with a two women and their son. all im saying is i don't believe that same sex couples should be raising a child, but i also dont think that just because your homosexual you should be beaten and made fun of i believe that as a christian man i should still have a Godly love for you but pray that one day you will see the wrong in homosexuality and change."

I was raised by a single father, my mother passed away when I was young and my father did not remarry until after I was grown. I can assure you, I did not require help in learning how to clean myself when I started menstruating. My father did just fine in caring for me and teaching me how to be a lady. He was the epitome of a "good ole boy".l Raised in the time of the depression, when child-rearing was "women's work". If he didn't know how to handle a situation, he talked with me about his concerns or he found someone who did know how to handle the situation. In fact, his best friend (a male) taught me how to care for nylons based on watching his own wife. My brother-in-law taught me how to walk in high heels, and my female friends and I figured out makeup and hairstyles on our own, my dad never had to help with that. And when I was younger, he was quite capable of brushing out my hair (which was long) and pulling it up into a ponytail or braiding it.

As a mother, I have taught four boys how to clean themselves just fine without the help of a male. My oldest son is on his high school football team as a starting right tackle for JV his sophomore year.

Personally, I would much rather have a loving and accepting gay or lesbian couple raise my children if something were to happen to me...than a hate-filled, ignorant, intolerant bigot. As a Christian, I am appalled by the hatefilled and judgmental attitudes I have witnessed against gay and lesbian families. Gay and lesbians are capable of loving a child, as a parent should. Look at all the families that have been affected by drug or alcohol abuse, or the children physically abused by their heterosexual parents, or what about the single mother or father that bounce from relationship to relationship without consideration of their child's environment? Or the heterosexual parent who leaves the raising of the child to the television or childcare worker, expecting the child to be taught by the elementary school rather than to spend any time teaching the child themselves? I worked in a school for years, I can assure you, children learn from their environment, and heterosexual biological parents are much more capable at being worse parents, than a gay or lesbian couple that have gone through the adoption process, and approved by a court to become legal parents to a child. Being lesbian or gay does not make a person a good parent but neither does being heterosexual.


0 Points      Benja      22 Mar 2011      General Comment
"...how do two men teach their daughter how to us the restroom, clean herself while shes on her period, choose a bra size or even do her hair... ... i also dont think that just because your homosexual you should be beaten and made fun of i believe that as a christian man i should still have a Godly love for you but pray that one day you will see the wrong..."

your right on girlfriend!

It's nothing but problems when it comes to gay couples choosing which haircut looks the most fabulous for their daughter. Let's pray to the God of Gay that they will make the most fashionable choice. Neither of us want to see anyone being made fun of.


0 Points      Von      22 Mar 2012      General Comment
You sound very hateful and prejudice.I'm straight, but I don't make any generalizations about people just because they are different from me. You say " Let's pray to the God of Gay..." like your hurtful comments are just funny jokes, when it actually makes you sound insensitive to different people.




(p.s.: there is only one god so your joke is offensive to both homosexuals and christians.)


0 Points      Hypocrites!      12 Apr 2012      General Comment
@VOn, I think she was being sarcastic about the ignorant comment that D had made... The following is the comment he made, "...how do two men teach their daughter how to us the restroom, clean herself while shes on her period, choose a bra size or even do her hair... ... i also dont think that just because your homosexual you should be beaten and made fun of i believe that as a christian man i should still have a Godly love for you but pray that one day you will see the wrong..."
I think she was trying to call him ignorant for assuming that gay men wouldnt know how to fix a litle girl's hair.
I think he's pretty ignorant for making that comment myself. (along with the rest if his hypcritically ignorant comments.





0 Points      khalilah      16 Mar 2011      General Comment
hi my name is khalilah and i understand you........jus go with your heart....19092724679


1 Point      livinglifetotheFULLEST      07 Mar 2011      General Comment
I'm sorry to hear that you got kicked out of your parents house for being bisexual. Honestly, it's who you are. Don't change who you are or feel bad for being bisexual. Who cares what the world thinks. Honestly i praise you for being so brave at the age of 15. I really do. I'm glad you found a place to stay where people accept you for who you are. :) And another thing, your parents will love you no matter who you are or what you do in life. They might be a little mad and confused right now, but give them time...they will definately come around. They are your parents after all. Anyways hope you have a bless future. Take care :)



0 Points      Anonymous      30 Jan 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
Homosexuals should not be allowed to adopt. We are brought into this world by man and woman, therefore we should be raised by man and woman. We shouldn't pervert that natural order.


0 Points      Rose      13 Mar 2012      General Comment
Says who? The BIBLE, which constantly contradicts its self and was written by human beings, who lie and cheat and steal to get their way? And it also steals stories and holidays from not only PAGAN religions but from egypt and such.

And how exactly is letting homosexuals adopt "Perverting" anything.

Homosexuals tend to be the kindest, and most thoughtful people, because they have been discriminated against. Studies also show that heterosexuals are more likely to get AIDS, and do drugs than homosexuals. All this wrapped together means...?

Homosexuals make better parents than most of the parents already out there. This is AMERICA, land of the FREE, for life, liberty, and the pursuit of HAPPINESS. The entire "No same sex marriage" thing is already going against what america was made for, and this is making it worse.

And the church needs to get their heads out of their ass. Saint judes had to take the 'saint' out cause the pope pitched a fit over them saving a mother while she was giving birth, which resulted in the baby dying. He also flipped a bitch when a little girl had an abortion.

She was barely 13, and had been raped.

So yeah, how about we just get over religion, and use common sense.


0 Points      Anonymous      25 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
i kinda am with you. I don't think we should bother our natural enviornment. I am a 9th grader and doing a report on this an i think it is very wrong to have a kid grow up with the same gender parents. I would rather have a mother and a father i would want 2 moms. Not to pop anyones bubble but i am so against this i think people should be just plain straight


0 Points      Anonymous      25 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
*wouldn't sorry



0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
Not everyone is raised with a man and a women. Regardless of sexuality.


1 Point      jay      02 Feb 2011      General Comment
So what you are saying is that though there are probably about 100,000 kids in orphanages who want to live in a home. Theyre better off staying there than being in a home with two parents that would love and take care of them?



1 Point      Against It      25 Jan 2011      Stance on Question: Neutral
I think that Homosexuals should not be allowed to adopt children. First of all,we are all influenced as we grow up by our parents which means they may take on the same sexual preferences as there parents. Homosexuality is common place in society but in the natural order of things it is not normal. We are born into this world by man and woman not by the same sex. Secondly,children have a hard enough time trying to figure who they are and how they fit into society as they approach puberty and in to there teens. They don't need to deal with teasing and ridicule from peers and there parents. Some things should not be allowed. Our society has become a joke and I will definitely petition against this. If you grow up and decide that you want to be gay that's your business but it is not fair to allow homosexuals to influence innocent children period.

People who think that we are not influenced by people and are surroundings as children are the naive ones.


0 Points      Min      19 Oct 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
"They don't need to deal with teasing and ridicule from peers and their parents." ?!! If people accept homosexuality, there will be no teasing or ridicule. The real problem is the society. In fact, the problem comes from people like you. If people like you can love each other, and not judge one another. There will be no issue here. The problem is heterosexuality not homosexuality because all gay and lesbian couple want to do is building a happy family. Nothing more, nothing less.


0 Points      Jay      02 Feb 2011      General Comment
People are influenced by their parents and their surroundings, but that doesnt mean a gay parent can influence their straight child to be homosexual anymore than a straight parent can influence their homosexual child to be straight. If a child is homosexual they will be that way no matter what sexual orientation their parents are.


0 Points      to Jay      26 Feb 2011      General Comment
I disagree...parents have a major influence on kids at a very early age!


0 Points      Jackie      07 Mar 2011      General Comment
Well of course they have a major influence, but they won't just automatically take on their parents sexuality. When did you wake up and decide you were going to be attracted to that sex that you're attracted to? You didn't. You were born this way. Same with homosexuals. They are people too, and should have the same rights to adopt as everyone else. Why can't people just be a little more open-minded, and a little less ignorant?





1 Point      Anonymous      08 Jan 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
I feel that being in a homosexual family and being brought up in a single parent family is ultimately about the same since the child is brought up by only one gender parent(s). There are so many single parents out there bringing up their child so why shouldn't homosexuals be allowed to? I don't think that there is a problem and I don't think that homosexual couples preach to their kids to be homosexuals. Homosexuality may not be a choice to some but regardless of whether it is their choice or not, I feel that denying them a right to have their own family is just wrong.


1 Point      Vanessa Ontiveros      10 Nov 2010      Stance on Question: Mostly Agree
I grew up with only my mother and she is straight. I don't have the slightest clue where my father is and I could care less. I didn't need a father and a mother in my life, so kids should be adopted by same sex couples. Saying that same sex couples will turn thier kids gay is so ridiculous, it's like saying a straight couple will make thier kids straight. Well you know what!
My mom is as Straight as can be and I'm as Gay as it gets. So I believe people should use a better excuse to cover up thier ignorance.


0 Points      Anonymous      12 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Agree
THANK YOU! my parents are the definition of heterosexual and i'm quite the opposite!


-1 Point      spinkle      07 Jan 2011      General Comment
I think its so wrong in a world ware we try to protect children we now let homosexuals adopt children what is going on answer this straight do these children not have the right to make there mind up for there self's if brought up by 2 men the first thing a child needs when its born is its mother does it not have this right? , it is going to be bullied at school and thats the truth do these children not have the right to make there own mind up is that nothing but child abuse ? and are you not homosexual because you are angry that your farther was never there ?


0 Points      Anonymous      21 Mar 2011      General Comment
for there self's?

you mean for themselves?

they may not be heterosexul, but at least my parents taught me how to speak the English language.



1 Point      Anonymous      10 Nov 2010      General Comment
"I didn't need a father and a mother in my life, so kids should be adopted by same sex couples."
Maybe if you had a father you'd have better reasoning skills.


0 Points      Julia      16 Nov 2010      General Comment
Maybe you need to keep your opinion to yourself.
oh and to Vanesasa; you couldn't be more right :3


0 Points      Anonymous      16 Nov 2010      General Comment
"Maybe you need to keep your opinion to yourself."
Maybe you need to take your own advice.


0 Points      Hypocrites!      12 Apr 2012      General Comment
How can you be so nasty?






1 Point      OmnipotentRabbit      10 Apr 2010      Stance on Question: Agree
Homosexual couples are generally more stable than heterosexual ones, which guarantees a better environment for the child and whatnot. If anything, allowing them to adopt them would reduce the general number of orphans and result in a much better general situation. This is another one of the cases where supposed "moral standards which must be upheld" get in the way of progress.


0 Points      Radioactivity      10 Apr 2010      Stance on Question: Agree
Being gay is the last thing that should cause anyone to be viewed as an unfit parent. There is no "risk" or "danger" to a child adopted by a homosexual couple which exists inherently and exclusively due to that orientation.


0 Points      Anonymus      07 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Disagree
Ummm...studies have shown that children who don't grow up with a mother & father figure are more likely to be promiscuous, get involve in drugs, etc.

I have nothing against gays/lesbians, but homosexuality just isn't natural. I mean, it takes a man & a woman to produce a child, not 2 men or 2 women. Also, Gays/lesbians will also forever remain as virgins because of there lack of procreation. It isn't REAL sex unless you are reproducing. This is why gays/lesbians are not part of the natural selection.


0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
Oh, and I forgot to add. Those studies may very well be from (and I'm not taking a stab at anyone) ...but they may very well be from those who have grown up with only a mom because their dad left or only a dad because their mom left, (or passed, etc.) which in this case, can be a bit difficult to live with. Why did he/she leave? What does it mean? Etc... But if it's only because they are both moms or both dads, there is nothing wrong. They get all the love and affection they may have with a mom and dad...if not more.


0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
So it's not REAL sex until the girl gets pregnant? That doesn't sound right. Girls and guys are no longer virgins after, oh look, having sex...and that doesn't necessarily mean that the girl is procreating...not yet anyway. Homosexuals and the like are no more promiscuous and into drugs, etc. than heterosexuals. It's all in the individual. Besides, if everyone is out having babies, no one is adopting...the nations neeeeed those who can't conceive in order to keep kids off of the streets and out of the orphanages.

Besides! Those who can't conceive are not limited to homosexuals, etc. They can very well be a male and a female together. Some people just can't have babies. (for whatever reason that may be...I'm not the person's doctor. I don't know the personal issues people have...though one of my aunts can't have kids, so she's adopted.)


1 Point      Anonymus      04 May 2011      General Comment
you really need to do some research, there are loads of studies that have been conducted since 1978 regarding children who have been brought up in Non-heterosexual families and

research clearly shows that children of gay and lesbian parents suffer emotional/ psychological distress it is mostly due, NOT TO BECAUSE OF THEIR PARENTS SEXUALITY but to the way individuals, groups and society has responded to them because they have non-heterosexual parents.

so if people would just get over it, stop discriminating against sexual orientation and gender and picking on the children there would be no problem.

Scientific research has been consistent in showing that lesbian and gay parents are as fit and capable as heterosexual parents, and their children are as psychologically healthy and well-adjusted as children reared by heterosexual parents.

Stop living in the past




-1 Point      j726      26 Jun 2009      Stance on Question: Disagree
gay couples should not adopt because they can use the kids for stuff that kids should not be around and a kid should always have a mom and a dad.... i have seen gays and they are a pretty nice people but they should not have kids.............


0 Points      Jackie      07 Mar 2011      General Comment
Kids should always have a mom and dad? Who said so? You? Why don't you think homosexuals should have kids? I'd like to hear your reasoning. Because it looks to me that you were just brainwashed into thinking that homosexuals are incapable of having children. Homosexuals are human beings. Open up your mind a little!


1 Point      M      05 Apr 2011      General Comment
I agree with Jackie. There's nothing to say that a child 'needs' a mother and a father. What about all of the kids who grow up with only one parent? I've only had my mom since I was 12 and I'm fine, most of my friends parents are divorced and they're perfectly normal. And what about the kids who, unfortunately, grow up with a mom and a dad but in an abusive household? Oh yeah they have a mom and a dad, who neglect and beat them, but as long as there's a male and female parent they child will grow up perfectly normal (I hope you can sense the sarcasm). What a child need is a loving and understanding environment to grow up in, and homosexual parents would be more understanding that a heterosexual one (at least on some points) because of everything that they have had to go through.


0 Points      Anonymus      07 Apr 2011      Stance on Question: Mostly Disagree
Umm...studies have shown children who don't grow up with a mother & father figure are at risk. Sorry to burst your bubbles lol


0 Points      badyellow20      16 Nov 2011      General Comment
you did not ust nobody bubbles because you just nasty you go ahead and you do it the reason why its ok wit you because you probably gay hahahaha bust ur bubbles.





1 Point      Anonymous      28 Apr 2010      Stance on Question: Agree
my dads raised me and im fine im a great student and im graduating this year so get your facts straight and i think i would have not been as good with a mom :)


0 Points      Anonymous      23 Oct 2010      General Comment
u don't even know what's a mom like, so how can u say u would not have been good with a mum? use your brain mate..


0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
And you don't seem to know what it's like to have two dads or two moms. So how can you even judge her/him like that? Honestly. Why do people always love to jump to conclusions or to accuse people of things without thinking? Sigh.





0 Points      wisted      25 May 2009      Stance on Question: Agree
Being straight does not automatically make you a better parent. Yes, I am straight.

I think the thing to focus on here is will that child have the rights that they are entitled to-go look at the UN Declaration (http://www.unhchr.ch/html/menu3/b/25.htm) some points that stand out:

"The child shall be protected from practices which may foster racial, religious and any other form of discrimination. He shall be brought up in a spirit of understanding, tolerance, friendship among peoples, peace and universal brotherhood, and in full consciousness that his energy and talents should be devoted to the service of his fellow men"

and also,

"The best interests of the child shall be the guiding principle of those responsible for his education and guidance; that responsibility lies in the first place with his parents."

Obviously (let me repeat: OBVIOUSLY) coming from a traditional mother/father/kids family does not mean you will automatically have the rights you are entitled to. There are a lot of straight couples out there verging on child abuse by having children they can't take care of, children that become 'victims of the system'. If a gay couple has decided to settle down and raise children, one would assume that they are conscious of the responsibility child rearing reqires. Adoption is long, emotional and expensive and if a couple can meet the criteria and provide a home for a child then sexual preferences should play no part in the deciding factor. Everyone must be evaluated the same way, gay or straight.

If that child can be loved, protected and guided by their parents and brought up in the spirit of tolerance and acceptance then I think we can feel that the rights of that child, which is everyones responsibility to uphold, have been met. Love is between people, not genders.


0 Points      kasia      20 Apr 2009      Stance on Question: Mostly Disagree
I agree that family with mother and father is a base for every community. Homosexuality is a sickness,this is against a human nature. If something is not normal how we can let those people adopt the children? They are not bad people. I know few gay and I like them but they shoudln't have any possibilty to adopt kids.


0 Points      Fae      09 Jun 2011      General Comment
You like them and yet you are calling their lifestyle a sickness? Excuse me, but that doesn't sound like something you would say about those you like.


0 Points      Audi      04 May 2011      General Comment
Why does a kid have to have a mother and father to be normal? Most of child abuse and children's trauma come from straight parents. So why is it better? Homosexuals


1 Point      Jackie      07 Mar 2011      General Comment
Did you really just say homosexuality is a sickness? Sorry to burst your bubble, but it's something you're born with. You were born and you just knew you were attracted to the sex that you're attracted to. Although, yes, there are some people out there who I'm sure just randomly decided they would rather be with the same sex, but I know for a FACT that most of them are born with it. So, if homosexuals aren't bad people, then why on Earth should they not be able to adopt kids? Because it's socially different for a man to love a man, and a woman to love a woman? Just wait, years from now homosexuality will be accepted, same-sex marriage will be legal, and none of this will be frowned upon. A big slap in the face to close minded people like you.


0 Points      Benja      07 Mar 2011      General Comment
"there are some people out there who I'm sure just randomly decided they would rather be with the same sex"
Are we talking about sex or socks? I can buy that decisions with the latter might be random...

"I know for a FACT that most of them are born with it."
See Does homosexuality have a significant genetic component?. Strong intuitions are not facts, and are not replacements for scientific studies. Furthermore, by relying on strong intuitions you're really putting your reasoning on the same level as the homophobes who rely on intuition rather than science to make their conclusions.

"Just wait, years from now homosexuality will be accepted..."
See The Growing Realization Pitch.

"...close minded people like you."
See The Closed Minded Pitch.



1 Point      tish      08 Nov 2010      Stance on Question: Agree
what about children that have a mom and dad but the parents are nonfit? what about heterosexual parents that do drugs and fight in front of the child is that a healthy environment? personally it shouldnt matter the sexuality of the parent as long as the child is loved and cared for. just because a gay couple raises a child does not mean the child will grow up to b gay. where do you think homosexuals come from? they come from TWO HETEROSEXUALS. so what happened there?


0 Points      Unknown      26 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
Not always my friends parents are make and femal he turned out to be "BI" so just because you think its true its not always.


0 Points      Unknown      26 Jan 2012      Stance on Question: Disagree
*MALE and FEMALE sorry




0 Points      Clive      21 Apr 2009      General Comment
Ok, there is a lot of fluff here. I'm not gay but there is more anger than fact in your answer. Homosexuality, sorry, is not a sickness. AIDS might be a sickness but homosexuality is not. And what's natural, well, lets let the dominant males make the children and the gays look after the children, no offence gay guys, you're top dudes.

You also say, you know a few gay and like them, nice one?



0 Points      Malcolm G      01 Feb 2009      Stance on Question: Agree
Yes, but they have to undergo the same screening as anyone else - criminal record; pedophilia; etc.


0 Points      Tyler      14 Feb 2012      General Comment
Homosexuals have the potential of making their children screwed up beyond belief. When they are "adopted" (I would say abducted)


0 Points      Riley      20 Mar 2012      Stance on Question: Agree
I'm in 8th grade and I am doing a reasearch project about if Gay Copules should be allowed to adopt children. HECK YEA! When I hear gay couples, I think of Kurt and Blain from Glee! And they are such nice people in real life. Rachel Berry has 2 dads and she is one of the most talented and brightest characters on the show.Just because a person is gay doesn't mean they can't raise a child. Plus the kids wouldn't know any better at such a young age and they will love their parents no matter what sex they are